You don’t know my fears

By: Megan Graves, Columnist

You know whats really been grinding my gears lately? Well, a lot.

But, currently, my gears are being ground by 1) the fact that trans people are being denied the right to use the bathroom that makes them the most comfortable and 2) the fact that the biggest argument used to justifythis denial is that if transgendered women (women whose sense of identity does not correspond with their birth sex) use the same bathroom as cisgendered women (women whose sense of identity corresponds with their birth sex), it would put cis women and children in danger.

First of all, yall, trans women are women. This isnt up for debate.

Forcing a person to use a bathroom they do not feel comfortable using denies their identity, and who the hell are we to deny anyones identity?

Secondly, a woman literally just trying to use the bathroom in peace is not a threat to other women and children. Forcing a woman to use the mens bathroom wont make anyone safer. In fact, doing so puts that woman at risk, makes her uncomfortable and denies who she is — who she may have gone through hell to proudly be.

If our government really want to keep women safe, how about we stop letting rapists get away with little to no punishment? How about we make womens healthcare (including abortion) safer and more accessible? How about we stop treating trans women like they arent women?

Heres what I have to say to any member of our government who thinks letting all women share one bathroom is a threat to women and children: Stop using your concernfor my safetyto propel your hateful agenda.

You werent concerned for my safety when you let Brock Turner, found guilty of sexually assaulting a woman behind a dumpster, go back to living his life after just three months in jail.

You werent concerned for my safety when David Becker, charged with sexually assaulting two girls, was only sentenced to two years of probation. You werent concerned for my safety when you allowed him to look forward to a productive life without being burdened with the stigma of having to register as a sex offenderbecause you didnt want to impede this individual from graduating high school and [going] onto the next step of his life,” as described by Thomas Rooke, Beckers lawyer.

You werent concerned for the safety of women when you cut off funding to other countrieshealthcare facilities because they provided or discussed abortion. You werent concerned for the safety of women when you — ahem, Oklahoma —  moved a bill forward that would require women to get written permission from men in order to obtain abortions.

And dont tell me that women trying to use the damn bathroom are a threat to the safety of children, because you werent concerned for the safety of children when you let then 16-year-old Kraigen Grooms serve only two years and four months in jail after pleading guilty to “engaging in a lascivious act with a child.”

You werent concerned for the safety of women and children then, and you sure as hell arent concerned for the safety of women and children now.

I will never worry about who uses the stall next to me, who shares a mirror with me, or who laughs at me when I cant get the automatic paper towel dispenser to work. No.

Instead, I worry about who gets near my friends drinks when we go out. I worry about whether walking with my keys tucked between my fingers will actually help me fend off a predator if I need to. I worry about what healthcare will be accessible to me next year. I worry about who will believe me if Im sexually assaulted.

None of my fears stem from trans women. My fears stem from governmental systems and agencies that perpetuate real threats to womens safety time and time again.

As a cis woman, I refuse to be spoken for as a means to catalyze transphobia. Trans rights are womens rights, and we wont let hate win.


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