By: Brittany Patrick, Columnist
Anyone maintaining a long-distance relationship in college knows all too well that sickening, weighed-down feeling in the pit of your stomach when saying farewell to the one you love. You only yearn to care for them and make them laugh – and yet, here you are, watching them go. However, if love prevails, you won’t let distance stop you from your own strength and desire to commit to that person who means the most.
Whether you’re high school sweethearts, you’re taking a semester to study abroad or you merely met someone from a few states over on your trusty app, Tinder – don’t allow distance to wreak havoc on your relationship.
Embrace the situation at hand and maintain a positive outlook. Maybe you’re facing distance with a best friend from your hometown – your best friend should always be your best friend, no matter the miles. Friendship is a sacred bond that needs work and care to continue to flourish and remain steadfast.
Life is full of distance and hardships, but they don’t have to confine you. Whether you view these miles as a limitation or an opportunity for growth, the choice is all yours.
Here’s a few tips on how to make the most out of a long-distance relationship: Communicate! Don’t leave your S/O in the dark. They care about you and want to know how your day went, what you did and who you hung out with. They want to stay updated so as to remain a strong component of your life. You and your partner are a team, and what team has ever functioned properly without a strong foundation of communication?
Secondly, don’t bail on Skype dates or phone calls. These are plans too! Setting a date to Skype or talk on the phone for a few hours (probably more) is totally just as authentic as a plan to hang out with a friend or see a movie. Don’t bail on your virtual plans just because something seemingly more real came up. Visit each other. Get up and go! Obviously, whether you’re just an hour or ten thousand miles away makes a huge difference in how often you get to see your partner. Even if it is only a few times a year, don’t wait around to book those flights. Make these visits a priority. Finally, remind yourself why. Make a mental note to remind yourself of why you’re doing what you are. Take time out of each day to think of great memories and experiences you’ve had with your lover, or friend.
Remind yourself that it’s worth it. Maintaining a long-distance relationship should never be discouraging. It should be a fight worth fighting.